Sex Change Operation for Cherry Street

How can a thing, a concept, a location have a sex change operation when it doesn't have a sex? Well, Cherry Street is now becoming a sex place, or a place for sex. Whatever it is that will keep visitors happy. We  have no problem bringing in visitors, but most of them arrive there, take a quick look around and leave. After visiting many other high traffic places, I've discovered that sex is what keeps people from leaving. Most of these other high traffic places have "free sex" or a place for people to gather and 'play' with each other without having to pay for it as is common at the escort places.

So cat and I incorporated the orgy/sex place with the Cherry Street mall. There's a staircase down to the 'play' area with a guard rail around it right in the center of the mall. Down there are the toys you can use to have orgies or one on one sex with a friend or stranger. Off of the orgy/sex room is a tunnel leading down to the BDSM dungeon. All of the artwork on the walls of these places was chosen by cat. I'm so very proud of her. Everyone comments on the artwork. If for no other reason, you need to check these places out just to see the artwork.

So the name of the game is providing a fun and interesting place for people to hang out. This is how you build traffic at a location in SL and that means the place will show up higher in the search results and that means you will meet more new and wonderful people.

Fun Time/Play Time

I logged into SL to meet up with cat and some R&R. I logged on only to be TP'd away to an unknown destination for an unknown reason. Originally, cat and I had a play time date setup before I even logged on. I arrived in SL before she did so when I got the TP I thought it would not hurt to check it out, but there was a problem.

This happens way too often in SL for my tastes. When you first login, your viewer/computer is downloading all of the 3D images and objects around you. It takes a few minutes actually to rez in even on a fast connection/computer. To receive a teleport request from someone during this time is frustrating to say the least. Not only will your world not be allowed to rez in but there will be no time to check your offline messages. When someone sends a teleport request, it covers the offline messages you received while you were away. This is terribly inconvenient and the sender of the TP request knows this so it is also quite rude. You will be unable to check your messages until you have teleported to the friend's location, which I did. Keep in mind that while the friend can send a short message giving you a heads-up as to where you are being asked to go, in most cases, that is not done. And it's true, I am given the option of cancelling out of the request but I have a rule, everyone gets one chance. This particular friend had never done this to me before so I gave her the benefit of the doubt and assumed that the location she was requesting I come to was very very important. More important that my being able to see my environment and view my offline messages.

As it turns out, it was not important at all. It was just a greedy greedy game with a bunch of people I have never met and it was in local voice chat. SL voice chat with 8+ people is like a bad acid trip. It's echo upon echo and feedback upon feedback. Some volumes are way loud and distorted and the rest are so quiet that you cannot hear. It's a mess. My RL wife actually came down the hall way and asked me to please shut my door. It was that bad. How annoying! So for this particular friend, she had her one chance and now I know not to accept teleport requests from her without explanation, (and you know who you are). But in the end, I did have lots of fun and met some nice, funny and new people. I was even added to their group. But the teleport invite could have waited a few minutes until I rezzed in and read my offline messages. Just a word of advice to anyone in SL who sees a friend logon that they want to be with; at least IM them first and ask if they are able to accept a teleport request and give the reason(s) for wanting them to teleport to you. It's only common courtesy.

Originally, I was to go out with my wife, lover, submissive, cat, but the greedy greedy game delayed that a bit but it was okay, she had logged on a few minutes after me so it worked out anyway. But what happened after that was a bit frustrating. In hindsight, it was to be expected, but initially, cat and I had planned on going out on the grid and raising hell. By that I mean doing shocking things that I am not certain I want to share here. Things that are shocking, exciting, naughty. Things one would never do in RL and even in SL, things that bring pause to many. It was a time for us to go out and perform mischief. Raise some hell. Sew our wild oats. Push our limits, etc. I was hungry for some passion and sex and so was she. For my plans to work, I would require a stranger to participate. I took cat to several places but nothing was happening at those normally popular places. I was getting frustrated because I knew we were in a race against time (as always it seems) so I kept teleporting from place to place.

During those times I would have to leave cat behind alone. So far, nobody has come up with a way for 2 people to teleport simultaneously (which does not surprise me, as often times teleports fail for only one person), but if anyone ever figures that out, they will be rich! So while I was gone, even if it was for only a couple of minutes, she would get hit on by men who saw that I had left her behind. This is sort of the type of guy I was looking for for her to play with, but they need to have balls enough to ask me first. So I finally found us a place, a public disgrace place, and we went exploring. We walked past a very large, wide, fat man smoking a cigar in front of a building. I took cat up the stairs to explore the building. There was a woman in there but she was afk. So I took her back down into the streets. There were dozens of people there but they were all couples and quite silent. By 'silent' I mean that they must have been in private IM chat because there was no public chat nor voice chat occurring. So I took cat down to the subways, below the streets. The last time I was here there were mazes full of tunnels and passages, little alcoves and rooms off to the side to trap victims and 'play' with them. Knowing full well that cat was in a playful mood, I thought these places would work out great.

So I found a trap to catch her in. She was bound tight and spread eagle on her back against her will. This worked out well because I needed to travel the maze of tunnels to find a fun place for us to play. I did see some people on my mini-map who were close so I would seek them out and see if we could not have some fun with them. I left cat alone there, bound and helpless despite her protests. I was not gone long, just enough to become disoriented in the maze of tunnels, before cat screamed to me in IM, "I'm being used!" Oh? Hmmm

It took me a minute but I finally made it back to the chamber I had left cat trapped in. There was this huge, fat guy with a cigar, the very same one we saw up at street level in front of the building. He was most certainly using cat. She was protesting up a storm. I made certain the large cigar smoking woman user and abuser knew I was present and he did not flinch. He kept right at pummeling cat with his grotesque penis, still smoking his cigar and blowing the smoke in her face. I realized this is exactly what the girl needed so I searched the menu on the device for a 3some interface and nothing.... The trap was for one man and one woman only. Yet another source of frustration. So I waited while the ogre used cat's mouth and pussy for his pleasure. Afterwards he even thanked me. It's so refreshing to run into a rapist with manners. It's about time! So I spent some time giving cat some warm aftercare then we went home.

The whole ordeal prompted us to look for a nice gang bang device to put into our Cherry Street Orgy/Free Sex place. cat found the perfect device disguised as a picnic table. She found it, looked up the creator's profile and found the store where it's sold and tp'd me there. I picked up a copy and placed it into the orgy room, which is getting pretty crowed by the way. Check it out at http://slurl.com/secondlife/Sensual%20Freedom/59/197/2603

My office where I write this blog

Smooth First Event

Line Dancing at the new Cherry Street

The grand opening of the new location of Cherry Street Nightclub went off without a hitch last night. It was Country/Western night in honor of cat's love of the genre and we all line danced the night away. I was so thrilled to learn that my daughter Neva was going to be able to attend. She stayed nearly the entire night. Also in attendance were Lydia, cat, a new couple, Clancy, Emi and Olu. There were two other people whom I have never met but they did quite well on the trivia questions. It was a fun time had by all. CupCake ended up winning the event which was best in Country/Western.

First night at the new location went quite well.

The main thing is, while at one point there were 42 bodies on the sim that night thanks to a couple of the neighboring parcels, there was little to no lag. So this move to Sensual Freedom was the right choice. I can now continue moving items over from Styll to this new place. While I am not quite sure yet what to do with the underwater ballroom as there is very little land to work with on the surface of the parcel, I was able to add an orgy/sex room which should prove to be popular once people have visited it. It's spacious and has oodles of toys to play with for couples on up to 7 sex maniacs at one time.

On Friday night, the tier runs out at Styll, so I have until then to move everything over. It's a much bigger job than I had first imagined, but I've had the weekend to do it and I'm nearly half-way finished so I do not expect any trouble. I will however be very very busy inworld so please excuse me if I do not respond to your IM in a timely fashion for the next week or so. Also, thanks everyone for your support during this move.

Relocation

What a very very busy weekend this is shaping up to be for me! One of the problems with the sim I'm on, Styll, is that it's a Homestead sim. It is full in size but lacking in prims. A full sim will accommodate up to 15,000 prims. My homestead sim only handles 3750. This has not proved to be much of a problem though however, a homestead sim can only accommodate up to 20 people for the entire sim. A full sim can handle up to 100 people. There is also the issue of lag. A full sim resides physically on a computer server. A homestead sim shares a server with 3 other homestead sims. At least that's the theory. There's some speculation that homestead sim property managers are stuffing more and more homestead sims onto a single server. That and the fact that the other homestead sim dwellers on the same server can be running too many undesirable scripts, which will slow down performance and create lag, has prompted me to take some sort of action. So I have located a full sim that is divided up into quarters. So each of these four parcels can support 3750 prims, but they can also handle more than 20 avatars. I also ran a couple of different lag meter tests on both sims and this new one, Sensual Freedom, is over twice as fast as Styll and it will be costing me nearly L$2000 less in tier per week. It would seem like a no-brainer. But there are a couple of problems.

One problem with giving up Styll and moving to Sensual Freedom is that I will be giving up all that area and privacy. On Styll, there are no neighbors to upset. I cannot imagine what it is that I or my friends would do that would upset any neighbors but you simply never know with people. Because Sensual Freedom is an Adult rated sim, I doubt any of our perverted escapades would upset anyone, but if they do not like the looks of palm trees and naked tanning models, then they could easily become upset with us.

Another problem is area. Because the area for Cherry Street will be cut down by 3/4 of its original size, I have to become very creative. The nude beach and cuddle forest will have to be down on the ground, but everything else, including the club, dungeon, castle, shopping mall and more, will have to be up in the sky. There's simply not enough room on the ground anymore for everything. This also means no more racetrack. A one quarter sim simply isn't large enough for a racetrack.

So I have been moving everything over pretty much one prim at a time. I have also created a new orgy/sex area that should prove to be popular. I have set the default teleport in site to the club and shopping mall area and shortly after doing so, I had some people pop in to check the place out, so it's working already. All of my friends have been offering their help and support due to this being such a huge project, but because of the way Linden Labs rabidly works ownership and edit rights, nobody can help move my stuff over to the new place. But it is so good to have my friends with me, side by side, offering their support. You know who you are. Thank you all.

I have lived at Styll for well over 2 years now and it will seem strange to be letting it go. I have had people live with me such as my beloved JoJo and PattiQ, Wildman, Phac, LandyinRed, Dylan, Nezzy, Jareth, Whisper and so many more. There are so many memories associated with this virtual land, it's hard to imagine. I plan on writing the estate manager a notecard thanking him for all his support over the years and saying farewell for now. I certainly do reserve the option to return to a homestead sim should this quarter sim not work out, but I am so very much looking forward to being able to hold parties and events without crashing the land we are on. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for the real test tonight which is the weekly country/western dance.

C&W, Date and 80s Nights

C&W night at Cherry Street w/Roy passed out from too much fun

cat really enjoys her country/western music. So much so that she has taken off on her own a few times to attend some C&W events. I don't play country music when I DJ but if she wants it that badly, I figured I should make an exception. So from now on, I proclaim that (at least until I change my mind) Monday nights at Cherry Street Nightclub are C&W nights. We had our first C&W night last Monday and it went pretty well. Met and made a new friend, Roy, and found a cool cowboy hat.

cat's suppressed desires

I had cat find me a bunch of C&W music to download and had her decorate the place and locate some line dance stuff for the club. She did really well and had a lot of fun doing it I think. My only concern was one of the silhouette decorations she put up. I could almost swear it looks like a cowgirl going Domme on a bunch of cowboys. Suppressed feelings there cat? Maybe some sort of fantasy of yours? We'll discuss this later.

cat getting DP'd as people look on

  Which brings me to date night. We don't get those very often. Date nights are when I take cat out and try some things with her that she's never tried before and gauge her reactions. For the most part, they are positive reactions. Date nights require a minimum of 2 hours to pull off. This night we went to a couple of places of a sexual nature. I think I have yet to take cat out to a ballroom and have a formal, romantic evening with her. It's just not her idea of fun. But these forced RP places are! I finally took her to Public Disgrace and it worked out perfectly. She even made a new friend whom she met while he was sodomizing her. One important, obvious note here. Guys, if you find a dominate with his sub and you are invited to play, it is only common sense that you friend the Dom not the girl! I mean, come on! She belongs to him, why would you be friending her? Makes no sense to me but I let it happen and let it slide this time. I can always have her un-friend him later. But regardless of this guy's poor manners, cat had a wonderful time. I was able to trap her on some RLV devices and force her to do all manner of naughty things to us. We will certainly be returning to that place again as I have taken the time to explore it more and have discovered that we have barely scratched the surface of all that place has to offer.

Lightning shooting out of my guitar

Finally, the next night was 80s night at Dolls of Death. cat was unable to make it so I was hesitant to go. I was not really in the mood to party but my friend Olu was DJing there and I figured the very least I can do is make the attempt. As it turned out, I ended up having a good time there despite myself. Cinder, birdie and Bruce were there as well, not to mention the dancing girls who always manage to bring a smile to my face.

I had no idea what to wear on 80s night. The event description mentioned "big hair" and 80s rocker garb. I went through my inventory and found a Flying Vee guitar with effects and figured that because I'd likely be naked halfway through the event, why bother with an outfit? At least with this guitar on, I'll still look 80s even without an outfit on. Well, I didn't place top 3 in the event but I still had fun.

Reading up at all that I've just posted makes it sound like all I do is sex and party. Well, that was certainly true this past week! Now it's time to focus some of my time on productive activities. I'm working on a new teleporter system for the sim so that will help people to find some of the features we have there for them to enjoy which will hopefully make them want to stick around awhile and maybe even return. I will be remodeling the mall soon too, putting in some old vendors to replace the newer ones which are malfunction too often. As usual, if you think of anything you'd like to see on the sim in the way of features, be sure and contact me in IM or better yet, notecard, and I'll do my best to make it happen.

Alobar's Birthday/Rezzday

Alo's Birthday/Rezzday Party at Rising Sun Blues

Alo and his submissive sami

Yesterday was my old friend Alobar's birthday/rezzday. I say it that way because his RL birthday happens to fall on the same day he first logged into SL. The first day you logon to SL is considered the day your avatar was born and that is called a rezzday. Alobar (Alo for short) made his submissive sami, promise to not hold a party for him on his birthday/rezzday so she threw a surprise party for him the following day at his Rising Sun Club. Pretty sneaky sami! For the vast majority of us though, our birthdays do not equal our rezzdays so many people celebrate both. Personally, I keep my RL birthday celebration for RL and my SL rezzday celebration for SL. Only my very close friends will know my RL birthday. But when your rezzday happens to fall on your birthday, you just have to have a huge bash!

Lark and I with my cock sock

It was a ton of fun. DJ Peris was there for one along with sami of course and Lark showed up along with Ekatrina (Kat, not to be confused with another Kat I know... not sure how to differentiate between the two for this writing just yet), Also Licone and a bunch of others many of whom I do not know. It didn't matter, we were all there to celebrate Alo. I had to leave in the middle of the party but returned with my loving cat in tow later on. There was a spanking chair there but it was for Alo to use on the ladies which didn't make much sense to me. After all, he's the birthday boy! The theme for the party was "wear as little as you dare". I wore a sock and a smile. Lark wore a sexy little vinyl outfit. sami wore a very revealing pink lingerie thingy. Alo wore some leather shorts and cat wore a few strategically placed straps. I simply adore her taste in clothes!

Happy Birthday/Rezzday!

Anyway, we had a great time dancing and feeding L$ to the sploder. Everyone was hilarious as usual. But there were so many people there that the lag was almost unbearable. Despite that, everyone had a great time and I would not hesitate to go there again. While this celebration was going on, my friend Olu was DJing at the Dolls of Death club which I've been hanging out at a lot recently, being a new member of their group and clan. But I have known Alo much longer and besides, DoD was having another event tomorrow night which I should be able to attend.

Other happy partying guests

After Alo's party, cat and I were invited to Natsuki's party. Nat had a very good DJ there; DJ Andy. He played fast dance music which is not exactly my style, but it really got the audience excited so I think I might be switching my music up a bit. I didn't get any pictures from Nat's party only because I was so busy in IMs from friends throughout the SL grid, but there was Darren and Zuri there, Nat of course, cat and myself and the DJ Andy, a penis (yes, a penis was dancing there) and some others. It was a very well done outdoor setting at a manor/estate. All in all a very busy and social Saturday night in SL.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY/REZZDAY ALOBAR!!!

BDSM and Socializing

The lifestyle, D/s (Dominant/submissive), while it is alive and healthy in RL (Real Life) is much more common in SL per capita. Reasons are various I would think but the main one would be that all manner of sex and lifestyle can be explored in SL much more safely and in a more controlled environment. It's also true that people in SL are much less likely to judge others. A popular saying in SL is, "It's my SL" meaning live the second life the way you want to because the first life may not be ideal. There is much better control over virtual life than RL. That being said, there are a lot of kinky people in SL!

D/s Lifestyle Meeting in Voice Chat

One of my favorite aspects of my SL is the D/s lifestyle. We even have groups with meetings and classes and lectures, all designed to better ourselves and make for a more enjoyable, enriched SL. Some of these get-togethers are lessons in safety (yes, real sensations can be experienced through your virtual self), some are chats on shared experiences, etc. Most of these have a group member who serves as a moderator who hosts the meeting using either text chat or voice chat or a mixture of both.

I should mention here that there are at least 3 ways to communicate in SL. One which is most popular is local chat. Local chat is typed into your viewer and sent out to 20 meters in every direction. It can only be read by people in the same location as you. Then there is Instant Message (IM) chat which is also typed text but is not broadcast like local chat. It can be between 2 or more people anywhere in SL. The location doesn't matter. There are IMs between two people and IMs in a conference call and group IMs. Then there's voice chat. If you have a microphone, you can talk to other avatars in your location.

So these meetings or BDSM munch or discussions pertaining to D/s lifestyle can take place in local text chat or local voice chat. As you can imagine, the local voice chats can really get out of hand if everyone is talking at once, so there are rules that the moderator enforces and also a protocol. Everyone keeps their mic shut off unless speaking. If an attendee wants to ask a question, the letter Q is typed into local chat. If they have a comment then the letter C it typed into local chat and the moderator keeps track of who keys their mic and talks next. At these meetings and any other D/s social gathering or environment, you will find that the submissive/slave sits or kneels at the Dom/mme or Master/Mistress' feet. That is socially acceptable as the sub/slave has given of themselves to their Owner/Dom/me.

Leash, gag, blindfold.

It is quite common in SL to see Doms or Dommes/Masters or Mistresses leading their submissives/slaves around on a leash. The leash attaches to the sub's collar and back to the Dom/me's hand held leash holder or center of the avatar if the leash holder is not worn. The leash is a very powerful tool and icon in SL. It tells the world that "this is my girl/boy and he/she is controlled by me and they have given themslelves to me". The collared one can be either a submissive, who has given of themselves to their chosen Dom/me or a slave who was purchased by the Master/Mistress and must do that person's bidding no matter what. Actually, that's not entirely true. There are hard limits for slaves but that's a topic for another article. In either case, it's the collar which contains the scripts that make control of the sub/slave possible.

Kneeling Before Her Master

The collar wearer first of all and foremost must have the desire to be controlled. They must actually wear the collar in the first place. So don't think for a moment that there is no free willed choice here. There has to be the desire to be under the control of a Dom/me or Master/Mistress. Secondly, the wearer of the collar must command it to choose an owner. There can be multiple owners and even co-owners. Once a Dom/Owner is chosen, several options become available. First, the owner of the collar can lock it. Once the collar is locked, the wearer cannot remove it, unless the wearer is also an owner of the collar. As you can see, this can start to get complicated. But all of the levels of ownership and submission make for the potential to enjoy a great deal of inner exploration and adventure.

Without getting too technical, here's some things the owner of a sub's/slave's collar can do. Attach a leash to the collar and lead the wearer around anywhere in a region, even flying. Position the wearer in just about any animation such as kneeling or sitting or hugging, etc. Shock an errant wearer with electricity. Tie or hitch the wearer to a post or anchor. Activate and adjust RLV (Restrained Love Viewer) settings. Once RLV is enabled, all sorts of control is enabled as well such as adding or removing clothing, enabling RLV trapping, which means allowing devices to grab the collar wearer when they approach close enough and trapping them into devices and animations/actions against their will and if RLV settings are done certain ways, the collar wearer has no control over the situation. Owners of RLV collars can even blind and gag collar wearers which means the wearer will be unable to see (screen goes blank) nor can they speak clearly (chat is garbled). If the collar wearer has a folder in their inventory called "#RLV" without the quotes, then the collar owner has access to all the clothing or items contained in that folder. You can essentially make your submissive/slave don cuffs and gags, blindfolds, buttplugs, etc. The main goal of providing all of these tools to the collar owner is for the collar wearer to give away as much control to the collar owner as possible. Try to imagine the level of trust a submissive must feel for her dom to provide that. But at the other end of the spectrum, the collar can also be setup as nearly featureless making it more of a symbol such as a ring, than a device of control.

Then there is Gor or Gorean role play (RP). I will not pretend to know much about Gor, just that it's a lifestyle based on a series of sci-fi/fantasy novels. It's very very popular in SL and the lifestyle has many similarities to BDSM D/s. The women there mostly wear collars of submission or slavery. There are Gorean RP sims and groups all over SL. Also Vampires, Lycans, furries, fairies, demons, angels, just about any style of avatar you can imagine in SL practices BDSM as well. It's probably the most popular sexual-based lifestyle in SL.

But it's not for everyone. I would imagine many of my readers would be appalled at the thought of a man or woman being treated as a sex object. Let's just say that until you've tried it, don't knock it. It adds a whole new and colorful dimension to a couple's relationship.