Molding SL To Work For Us

SL (Second Life) is a bitch. She's a wonderful bitch but she's also a selfish bitch. "OMG Otto! How can you say that?" "Oh, I know exactly what you mean bro". SL does not allow us to live a complete virtual life inside itself. What do I mean? Well, first of all, everyone is in a different time zone. Secondly, typing takes up way too much time! Sure, we can do voice communication but sometimes that's not plausible. I mean it must be awesome to hear a woman orgasm over her mic as she stimulates herself in front of a large group of avatars watching her SL boyfriend bang her brains out. It's quite another thing to try and convey that over a mic or even camera! Yes, they have web cams for that. It's called Skype.

But SL's text interface is just too time consuming. Or is it?

Text communication forces  you to be precise. It forces you to choose your words very carefully because each and everything you say will be judged upon an earlier sentence. You need to be very careful of what you say. You need to paint a picture in your recipient's imagination of what you are doing. You need to tell a story. In many cases, this story may require time consuming detail to describe. Other times it may only require a series of short and to the point sentences. One side argues, "don't make your audience wait for what you are typing", or on the other side, "be more descriptive". So it would seem that a balance is the way to go. I have witnessed both sides of the argument and I do feel that a nice middle ground is desirable.

"Guiding my fingers over her smooth, slightly perspiring skin from her excitement, I slide them over the curves of her firm tight ass. My hand pausing on the apex of her round rump, I place my palm over her bare flesh and squeeze it, hearing a soft moan from her as I pull her pelvis harder toward mine, grinding ourselves together"

As opposed to, "gropes her ass"

As opposed to, "runs my hand down her smooth back to the curves of her fine, firm ass. I give her a squeeze as I pull her closer."

The third example doesn't take much time to write/convey, yet it gets the point across much better than the second example which is sort of disappointing. So isn't the first example better? Sure! That is if you want your recipient(s) to have to wait for you to compose all that. But if that's the case, then a 'scene' would take several hours. Who has that kind of free time? Not me.

So I go for a compromise. A balance between the two methods. It seems to me that's what most of the other people I run into prefer too. I mentioned earlier that I and cat had just joined a swinger's place. They encourage public "emoting" in their group. So far, the majority of the members there use the same method I do, so that seems to be the way to go. It is also a great way to flirt.

Out Exploring Alone is Easy

Keeping groups of friends together is a bit of a challenge too, but there are a couple of reliable methods to keep in mind. The first one is the party or club or whatever. Always keep in mind the 20 meter rule: Local chat ends after the 20 meter mark. Beyond that distance, if you want to public chat with someone, you have to shout. Shouting goes out to 100 meters before it cannot be heard anymore. Then there is always the Instant Message or IM. But unless you initiate a group IM, which can often times become clumsy, then keeping your party or dance club's dance floor to 20 meters is a smart choice. That way everyone can read what is being said between everyone there. If  you want a private conversation, choose IM. They will work between two people in private across the entire world of SL.

The larger than 20 meter clubs can be annoying. You go there to have some fun and crack jokes and listen to lively chat. But the last time I was at a large club, I could only hear the conversations going on on my side of the place. Now I realize you cannot build a club large enough to accommodate 60 people without making it larger than 20 meters, but the vast majority of the clubs never have more than 25 people in the place anyway. So why build larger than 20 meters for that?

But what if your group wants to travel? Say you want to explore a sim together? Then some sort of transportation vehicle is the way to go. When you and your friends 'sit' in a vehicle, you all stay together. I have a helicopter that seats 4. A boat that seats 6. Those are usually large enough. It's very rare to have a group of people together that all want to ride in the same vehicle and communicate. But they do make them larger. There are some boats I've seen that will seat a dozen avis. It all just depends on how many friends you have online at the same time that all want to do the same thing.

Keeping Busy

Maybe too busy? It has been far too long since I have posted here. Very nearly a month, so there will be lots of catching up to do.

I suppose most of my time is spent DJing. Three nights per week in Second Life (SL) and once per week in InWorldz (IW). That's where I was at last night. IW is not nearly as popular as SL so when a couple showed up there last night I had never met before, it was a real treat. Mat and Connie. Connie requested some Nickleback and I was happy to play that for her. I'm not allowed to play Nickleback in SL at one of the venues and I don't care what anyone thinks of them, they are quite talented and their music is entertaining.  Thanks Mat and Connie. It was a pleasure partying with you.

Halloween has come and gone. No, we did not attend any Halloween parties together, but cat and I did locate some outfits to wear, just in case. We also had some very limited time together but did manage to celebrate our 1 year wedding anniversary together. We got us a new bed with a pull up blanket, which is important at the end of the night, among other things such as 'furniture', RLV traps and such too. I can trap her before we logoff for the night and know exactly where she'll be when I return the next day. Right where I left her. Yes, RLV (Restrained Love Viewer) is that powerful. If left active in that bed when she logs off, that's where she'll return when she logs back on and she will not be able to get away. It's sort of like keeping her in a cage without the restrained space of the close six walls. An excellent anniversary gift and testament to her total devotion.

What happens when Iron Man gets a boner?

I have created 3 new racetracks but I think I'm only going to continue using 2 of them. One is a semi-oval but it's kind of small and best for go-karts. The curvy road course and the newest track, a banked oval, are the ones I will keep using. The road course has a scoring system with it and I'm able to add it to the oval track as well, but I need to separate them a bit because the scoring mechanisms interfere with each other. I'm not sure what the minimum distance is. I suppose I'll have to break down and read the instructions soon. I made the tracks but I have no idea how to script a race course timer.

Majyck is working on a new club for me. James made one but it was pretty large. So large that the 20 meter local chat conversation barrier is breached. This is okay when you have a super busy and crowded club, but it is very frustrating when the crowd is 20 or less and you cannot "hear" (or see what is being typed) by the people out of the 20 meter range limit. So Maj took some ideas of hers and ran with them. It's a really nice looking club for sure. So cat and I go over there from time to time to check on what she's come up with. It's really nice and gets better every day that she works on it. I suspect she's just about finished with it by now.

There is a swingers club that cat has been invited to join that has raised some curiosity lately. It's not exactly what she and I have been looking for but it's a start. Somehow (and I'm not sure how), cat knows one of the people who belong to this swingers club. So she was invited in and of course, being her mate,  husband, master, lover, I was invited too. There are nearly 400 people in the group at the time of this writing and more to come I'm sure. I may or may not post more details about it at a future date. We'll have to see how it goes because last time we tried this, it was more of a Dom/submissive group and we thought that would be perfect for fulfilling our kinks, but it was not. There were many layers of trust built into that group and it would have probably taken us the better part of a year to get to the points of trust we felt we deserved, so we lost interest in that group. Too time consuming. So she heard of this swingers club and thought it might be what she's looking for. So now we are members.

I have belonged to a couple of exclusive swingers clubs before in the past and pretty much know what to expect, but that does not make me an expert. I would have talked her out of this group had she brought it up to me before she joined. I had learned more about it from this friend of hers and it sounded exactly like the swingers groups I had belonged to in the past, but she was a member before I even had a chance to say anything. So I guess we'll give it a shot but I doubt it's going to be what she wants. Don't get me wrong. I"m excited about this new group, and it will be fun and we'll be able to contribute for sure, but I don't think it's what cat thinks it is. Actually, she and I might just have to make our own group the way we want it to be and that's not a bad idea at all. But it will take time to build group membership, and that's what the club will be for. That is if I open another club.

If you have read any of my posts from the past where I was running the Cherry Street Mall club, you would know that they are expensive and will hardly ever produce a return. Sure, I've had weeks where I would shell out L$900 only to have a customer come and purchase L$1000 of dresses, but that's only happened twice and the rest of the weeks, I'm in the red. But the purpose of that club was to get patrons to shop at the mall. If I start a new club, It would be to attract new members to our group which would be more D/s related than partner swapping. Yes, both lifestyles enjoy orgies but they are basically two different groups. And I would also need at least one club manager and one DJ to help me out. I would also need to quit most of my other DJing jobs just to focus on this one. It's a possibility that I need to look into should this swingers group fail to work out for us. In the mean time, I guess we'll give that one a good try for a while.