If you look at Wikipedia, the definition for swinging is something like, "non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity". It goes on to elaborate but basically, that definition takes all the excitement out of the concept. It's fun! It's also very nice to know that there is such a huge and solid trust between yourself and your partner that you can behave like this and not have to worry about jealousy or any other bad feelings.
Basically, when I cannot be online, I want to make sure that my committed partner can still have some fun. And the same goes for me. If I am out exploring or partying somewhere and I'm approached and propositioned, I don't want to have to feel like I have to turn anyone down unless I'm not in the mood. It only makes sense. And when we are both online together, it's nice to be able to participate in a group orgy or something similar without having to worry about hurting feelings. After all, it's not like cat and I would be online at the same time yet take off in two different directions to play with other people. We would be together or at least in the same room if that were our desire. I'm sure there are other couples who take off without each other and find their excitement with strangers, but to me that just sounds like a lack of interest in the couple's relationship, not a method of bringing each other closer together through shared experiences.
A quick note here about BDSM or D/s lifestyle. The D/s lifestyle dictates that the submissive is to serve the dominant. That limit of servitude is to be determined by the couple when they reach that point of D/s lifestyle. But it is not uncommon for a sub to be instructed to serve her master along with another sex partner either familiar or a stranger. It's just the way that lifestyle is. Is that swinging? Yeah, it could fit the definition, partially.
But as you can imagine, there is going to be a certain amount of unasked for insecurity, jealousy, envy, mistrust and probably feelings of rejection. Many people simply cannot handle this. But others go on their merry way, enjoying chance encounters and even attending parties such as orgies and swapping parties. But if you are really curious and want to learn more about this type of lifestyle, then a swinger's group discussion is the way to go.
My friend Lainey holds a weekly discussion at RoseWould Plantation on Tuesday nights for an hour. During that hour, questions are asked and answered, experiences shared and examples given. It's a great way to learn about the swinger's lifestyle. The entire region of RoseWould is based on the lifestyle. The group of people as a whole are very friendly and open. It's so refreshing compared to many places I have been a member of. After your first visit there, you will feel right at home. Unfortunately, it costs L$500 to join the group, but at least you can score a 6-day free pass to see if the lifestyle is something you would care to pursue or not.
In the end, the swinger's lifestyle is certainly worth a look. If you have a partner, then you will most certainly want to discuss it with them first. It is not for everyone. But if you are looking for something different and maybe more excitement, then this swinger's environment might be just the ticket. And if you are single, I'm sure you are still welcome there. I'm sure lots of couples would welcome the opportunity for a 3-way encounter or two.
On a side note; I have been trying to free up my time in SL by not working as a DJ so much. So I resigned from two of my DJing event nights. But this place, RoseWould, was in need of a DJ one night, a Wednesday night, so I filled in. It was fun! Low lag, no do-not-play list, lots and lots of tips and like I said, a lot of open minded and naughty people. Now they are wanting me to be regular there and while it goes against my needing some more free time in SL, it's all about the fun and I really do have fun there so, we'll see. I like the place so we'll give DJing events a shot for now.
